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Friendship: The Sixth Essence…by Robert M. Katzman

Filed under: Friendship & Compassion,Philosophy — Bob at 10:00 am on Friday, February 24, 2012

February 23, 2012

(Written on a rush hour train, on the way to seeing my brain surgeon for the first time, eight years after my two operations. He was fine.)

Friendship
Requires
Paying attention

And:
Concern
Involvement
Exhilaration
Risk
Disappointment

Friendship
is an
Intertwining
of
Mutual
Passion & Pleasures:

Sports
Movies
Coffee

Standing on the corner,
Watching

Friends can be Married
Or not
Lovers can be Friends
Or not

Friendship
is the
“Other”
Possibility

Sharing
Sensuality
Without
Sexuality

Friendship
is
Heightened
Reality

Unspoken
Communication

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Women Are the Largest Minority!……..by Robert M. Katzman

By Robert M. Katzman © February,13 2012  (almost) Valentine’s Day

(Sme dates and numbers updated in December 2020, eight years later)

313,000,000 people in the United States.

159,000,000 are women.

50.9% ?

A minority?

Go figure.

Like there was an ovary lottery, the women won it and then the women lost everything else.

Mystifies me.  Maybe thousands of years ago, men had the armies and slaughtered each other, and then one day realized that women could make more people and the men became terrified.  No stopping them, the men must have realized, so…better watch them closely.  Keep them under control.

Eons later, the women still are.

Paid less than men, run a few national companies, have a small number of seats in the United States Congress, 93 out of 535 seats, or 17.4%.

Now that, is a minority.

Senators: (17 out of 100) : 12 Democrats and 5 Republicans

Representatives: (76 out of 435) — 48 Democrats and 28 Republicans

So, 60 of the 93 women are Democrats, or almost 65% of the 17.4%, or 11% of the entire Congress.

Numbers can be a lot of fun, especially to someone who failed algebra in June, 1965, not that I remember that poisonous moment or anything like that. Or the teacher’s name: Miss Eason. Or that I had to take it again.

My mother, Anne, if still alive would have been 99 today, the day before Valentine’s Day, which always annoyed her.

She was born in 1921, the year after women first were awarded the vote by Congress in 1920.  Given that she was born in Chicago under the steel umbrella of the Democratic Machine, it is likely my mother voted that year and every year after that in local elections the straight Democratic ticket, of course, decades before she was legally permitted to do so in 1942.  In Chicago politics, this would be considered a fine point of contention.

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1958: Chicago Grass-Cutting Story…by Robert M. Katzman

Robert M. Katzman’s Amazing Story:  http://www.differentslants.com/?p=355

© February 2, 2012  (Groundhog Day) 

(Note: An old friend reminded me about this story, unwittingly, since there were no other witnesses to the pivotal incident with my father.  I sometimes imagine my memory as a house with a million closets, each holding a moment, a girl, an emotion, a terror.  The doors all look the same.  I don’t know what’s behind them.  I wish I knew which doors not to open.
This story just fell out of one of those closets, all 1,153 words. I wrote all there was to say and not a word more.  Now that closet’s empty. I can turn out the light and shut the door. How many more doors will there be for me to open before my own light gets turned out? 
Funny what you can forget.) 

In the summer of ’58, my father told me to mow the lawn, front and back, at my house on 8616 S. Bennett, where  all the fruit trees were. We lived on the South Side of Chicago in a Jewish/Irish neighborhood.

My grandfather, Nathan, who came from Minsk, Belorussia in 1914, planted them.  He loved trees and kept a small Lemon tree as a “pet” in his house.

I would visit him when I was a child and I was amazed by the heavy, fragrant, grapefruit-sized lemons that his pet tree produced. When he grew too old to keep living in his large house and had to leave the, by then, really large tree that managed to fill most of his basement, he cried bitterly.  His three middle-aged children, including my mother, were shocked by this.  I later overheard them whispering to each other that they thought “he loved that damn Lemon tree” more than he loved them.

Jealous of a tree.

A hard thing for me to understand.  Adults were strange.

I had already learned that I was severely allergic to newly cut grass, a situation so unbelievable at a time when Dwight Eisenhower was president of the United States and allergies were still not well understood,  that my telling my father a story like that was too ridiculous for him to take seriously.

I was also allergic to all the fresh fruit growing in the back yard, but that was never a subject leading to conflict. But my gradually discovering, one by one: all the fruits, vegetables, pollens, animals, kinds of fabric and molds– exactly what I was unable to eat, or be near, was a nightmare.  It took years for me to learn them all.  And then, shockingly, that allergies can mutate. That something I could eat with no problem would one day become toxic to me.

People who are blessed without allergies won’t understand any of this.  How could they?

Knowing what I knew about newly cut grass, however, gave me good reason to resist my father’s insistent instructions, and resist I did, leading to a loud and threatening argument. He lost his temper and I took off down the block to 85th St. and then west toward Caldwell School, my red-brick public grammar school.

I could run like a son-of-a-bitch. My father couldn’t catch me.  I was certain of that.  In the summer of 1958 he was forty-five years old, an age which was considered pretty old back then.

We both kept running.

After three blocks, I began to worry that he might suffer a heart attack because of how far we had run and I was very concerned about him, even at eight years old.  I had a real conflict going on within me.

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