Rainy Day Thoughts On Friendship…by Robert M. Katzman
Today, Thursday, April 30th 2009, is my 59th birthday.
Glad I made it. That wasn’t always a real good bet, after 30 operations.
In the last two weeks I had a stubborn bronchial infection that seemed to resist antibiotics and even an inhaler. This came right after I attempted to lift a box I should have known not to lift and threw out my back. So, for about half of this April, except for standing, sitting, breathing, sleeping and feeling endlessly tired and short of breath, I was just fine. Really.
Anybody who survives cancer, as I have since 1968, has no damn reason to bitch about getting older, aches, pains, lesser illnesses, greying or losing hair, or arthritis. Dead people have none of those (as far as I know) and I don’t know anyone in a big hurry to die to avoid the complaints of old age.
The whole point is to get old. Then you win. For me, every extra year is a victory. Any person who beats a heart attack, or similar catastrophe where death was expected, will understand what I mean. In the fight to keep going, I’m in round 42.
So there, Death!!!
Yes, most of us want to be loved. We want to be able to move around independently, to be able to see well enough to read and enjoy another season of spring flowers. We want to still be able to hear a symphony, or rock n’ roll or a quiet conversation, without saying: “WHAT??” every other sentence. We want to be able to enjoy good food.
In this depressing recession, with a Swine Flu epidemic slowly closing in on the planet while many of us wait to hear the latest news about how many new cases are confirmed, how many died and how many schools are being closed to protect our young, I was musing this morning as I drove to work in my old grey car on a grey, grey day with unceasing rain to dampen my mood.
Happy birthday to me, I thought. What is really important to me? I decided: Friendship.
The British broadcaster on BBC radio said, cutely, that good friends will help you move, but a REALLY good friend would help you move–a body.
This is probably another good reason why they lost their Empire.
So, here’s my thoughts about that same topic, after 21,535 days to think it over, so far.