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What is a Friend?

Filed under: Uncategorized — Bob at 12:36 pm on Sunday, December 27, 2020

by Robert M. Katzman © December 27, 2020

A Year End Essay:

Took me a lifetime to learn this

To clear away the debris

To comprehend the fundamentals

Now, I’m old enough to know:

A true friend is

Someone to hold you, silently

When you’re lost


Someone from your past

Who felt it was worth

Teaching you enough

To help you become someone

Worth being a friend

What’s a real friend?

A person who

When your life is crashing

Drops everything to be what you need


Be it cash


A bed

Someone who believes your story

No matter what

The sort of person who

When you really need

A straight answer

No matter what

Be it wonderful or fatal

Gives it to you


To be a friend like that

Requires great risk

But the reward is impossible


Unless knowing your own self worth

Is enough


As the year ends

We must brace for

The Tidal Wave of Death

The Pestilence of 2020

Surely coming

Because irrational people

Seem to choose it


If you have such a friend

Still within reach

To sit next to you

Or be on the other end of a phone

3,000 miles away

You are blessed



Because the warmth and relief

A true friend brings into your life

Just as you begin to feel

You are disintegrating

Makes me think God

Created the idea

That two people

Standing together

Facing the fear

Is a universe unto itself


What’s a friend?

The guy who shows up.


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Comment by Kumari de Silva

December 27, 2020 @ 1:07 pm

Quite beautiful. Not only true, but I received this moments after writing a long, long email to my friend from childhood, I’ve known since the 1st grade and we are now in our 50s. We have certainly seen our world change.

Comment by brad dechter

December 28, 2020 @ 6:06 am

Well said, Bob! I liked this much- short and sweet. I am uncertain that many folks understand that you do not have to physically be there to “show up”. That was your intent right- “the other end of the phone”? How about email- does that too count? (Wink.)
Best wishes to you and your loved ones for a better 2021! I hope it’s the best year yet for you all!

Comment by Beth Walsh

January 17, 2021 @ 8:03 pm

It’s funny this pops up today. My biggest support in life(My mom) died this month…alone in a hospital bed from COVID. Today I called an old friend I hadn’t spoken to in months and we talked for an hour. She notes she is consciously reaching out to rebuild her sense of community after moving to a new city, starting a new job, and battling Covid19 herself this past year. I miss seeing my friends in person. Some have moved away, others turned out to be friends for a season/reason.

Thanks for posting. It hit home today

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